Empowered woman

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Sometimes atleast rude behavior  and bad comments from your blood relations and legal relations will make you unhappy.it may make you feel helpless.but if you are strong enough you may also know that you can abandon such persons at any time if you wish when things seems to go uncontrollable.still these type of behavior from  people with whom you are supposed live under the same roof in a unit called family might make you depressed also.

Most of the time gentle and descent women ignore such behavior and comments and  carry on with their respective functions in the family as a dutiful member of the unit.in my case I also do that.In my case I have a strong incompatibility with some family members.so whenever they get an opportunity they try to demoralize me by behaving rudely or criticizing my actions without much basis.They never  waste  any chance to do some bad mouthing about me to other members of the family unit.I sometimes feel hurt but do not respond or question them..one reason for this is because I naturally have a deep empathy for all beings whether humans or animals or plants surrounding me.I place these people in my mind in a helpless situation where they may not have a comfortable life today which  I am providing them with my dalily duties and chores in the  family unit.i can imagine in what pathetic way they might end up if I am not there to serve them .They definitely will have difficulties as they are not efficient as me in doing so many small tasks which need patience and perseverance.

As a response to their bad mouthing I can also do this openly about them if  I want.But I never did or planning to do that ever.because I clearly know its below my standards.My supersensitivity makes me assess these souls deeply.my empathy make me considerate towards them.Yet I know where I need to limit my interaction and carry on with my own business.If I am sacrificing my opportunities and time for these persons its not because I am helpless but because I believe in family and social togetherness of living  things.Humans are programmed to ive in groups  and I  respect that universal programming.

The constitution of brain circuites are different in different people.some cannot perceive others efficiently as others perceive them.their thoughts are unidirectional.they can see only their side.they believe their thinking is the only and ultimate truth.its I think a brain abnormality of its electrical circuites or information processing.! Ofcourse I am not talking science.it is just my assumption from what I see.

So in nut shell I know what I am facing and how to deal with it is entirely in my power.Its my freedom to tolerate or to throw away.when I know this fact I am an empowered woman.An empowered woman takes responsibility.she cannot be a complaint box.she knows how to protect her rights.She never blame others for her failures or disadvantages.Instead she will stand up tall and reevaluate her path of life and find out the flaws and take steps to correct them.

FEAR.

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When I was at a younger age I used to believe that 99% of human beings are good , 1 % may be bad and it is my ability to deal with that 1%which  will make me a  better person.But as years passed and experience accumulated now I believe that 99 % of human beings are scared and paranoid.They distrust people .That takes away their ability to love without fear.That makes them cheat.That makes them abandon those who trust  them.That makes them have feelings of inferiority,or trapped in relationships and situations.So they run .But the most funny thing about this whole  scenario is that nobody reach anywhere neither the runner  nor the one who was left behind.they all remain always in the same vicious cycle of trust,fear,distrust,cheating,running,building,destroying,lonely and then disappear finally to nothing.

One  fact about human life is very simple if you examine it closely and minutely .As years of life pass we are programmed to deteriorate slowly and insidiously.But we also have an inbuilt ability to slowen the process if we understand  life and the given package,its pros and cons correctly and then behave accordingly.

Its easy to be  egoistic dominant,aggressive,submissive,superficial,deep,passionate,detached or whatever according to one’s  inbuilt constitution and biological nature.But nothing can be more powerful than sense.sense of being a human and his strength and capabilities of constructive/positive attitudes.It can change everything.It can make you a brave and courageous person who doesn’t run when met with obstacles in life and its interactions, from loving and caring,from accepting the same in return.It will prevent you from turning into a manipulator ,from achieving pleasure from making other people suffer from your actions.The only thing we need is a vision which should be so acute with capability  of looking from the beginning till the end at any moment and every moment of that journey.

This vision needs to be supported by a will power to outgrow the moment to moment decay which is a constant feature of life.Nobody can completely destroy it.yet we can resist its urge and slow it down.

When  I was writing this I was remembering all those lives who ran away from me,All those whom I met while they were running   and me itself ,how I looked  when I used to run.Many of them are still around and I see them and feel  them .I am also still here.yet no one is  seemed to reach anywhere including me !